Set the Example, by Rocking and Loving your Natural Hair
Times are changing ladies! We are in a new era where many black women are tossing the weaves and perms to the side; and rocking with their natural hairstyles…again. Thank goodness! The very act of tossing those extensions and “creamy crack” to the side is absolutely revolutionary. For decades we have been told that in order to have beautiful hair it needs to be straight and appear to be easily manageable. Sadly, many of us have fell into a trend of often tearing each other down for having a crown that is kinky and considered “nappy” in the most negative sense of the term. We have depended on perms so much that we have literally failed to remember or take the time to learn how to take care of what is naturally ours. Many of us have subconsciously drowned ourselves in a pool that lacks confidence, hiding behind what’s considered “socially acceptable” hair. We have passed on these self-esteem issues to our little girls without thinking about it twice, causing insecurities right along with those who tell us our hair is unprofessional.
Even though I don’t have a daughter, I have a son and yet I still decided to let go of the perms and extensions. By the time he reached the age of 1, I did the big chop and vowed to only wear natural hairstyles around him. Not only was I tired of covering up my natural tresses, spending all of the money to maintain “my hair”, but I also made the conscious decision that I wanted my son to love this black woman in her most natural state. Today, I have locs and when he tells me he likes my hair and proceeds to run his fingers through it. I think to myself, mission accomplished. It wouldn’t personally feel the same had he been rubbing his little fingers through hair that had been silky and altered. Therefore, my soul gave me confirmation that I personally have made the right decision.
Today we see a lot more women and little girls rocking their natural styles and might I add, looking damn good doing it too. This isn’t to say that black women shouldn’t rock their hair in the ways they feel most comfortable and confident. This is only to say that I wish all of us can feel wonderful and teach our young girls to feel the same with their natural hair in its natural state, regardless of the many changes we put our hair through. Lets be honest, there are not many styles a black woman can not slay. We’ve just got that flavor no one can touch. However, the beauty of setting the example that our kids need to see that their black is beautiful, naturally. I think that’s important, I think that is necessary. It a simple act of revolution that can go a long way.
(According to MERRIAM-WEBSTER)
-activity or movement designed to effect fundamental changes in the socioeconomic situation
–a fundamental change in the way of thinking about or visualizing something : a change of paradigm